1. Constant Quarrelling: You and your spouse do fight regularly about money shows you are operating on a wrong financial system. This shows that there is a problem financially. If you allow constant disagreement about money in your marriage, it will destroy trust and love in your home. Continuous misunderstanding in the area of finance at home is a sign that both of you and your spouse are not mature in the area of family finance; you need to improve on that.
2. You are Stingy: Stinginess is one way to make money work against your family. If you are too stingy that your family is suffering from the basic needs of life, despise the fact that you have sufficient money and you do not care about them. Note that there is a difference between prudence and stinginess. It is prudence if you decide not to buy a second phone or expensive clothes. But it is stinginess if you fail to pay your children school fees, pay house rents or buy food stuff for the family.
3. Family Replacement: You look for money at the expense of your family thereby replacing your family with money. If all you do is to look for money all day long with no family time, no time for your spouse or your children then money is working against you and you are working on a wrong financial system. The best gift you can give to your family is your time. How can you prove to them that you love them without spending time with them? Create time for your family.
4. Wrong Money Usage: There are good and bad ways to use money. If you spend your money to better the lot of your family and humanity, or you save and invest them, you are using money positively. But if you spend money on hard drugs, alcohol, immoral activities, or on criminal activities, then you are using money wrongly. There is no way you use money wrongly that it will not have a negative effect on your family.
Bisi Adewale is a family expert and president of college of marital success, an international conference speaker, author of more than 30 books on marriage and family life, host of family T.V. program called Family Booster.